Are you wondering what to give your kids for Valentine’s Day this year? Instead of gifting them with sweet treats, why not try sweet words instead? It’s simple, meaningful, and best of all, SUGARLESS!
I have done this for my kids for several years and it’s turned out to be one of my favorites. Every February I post a sign on their door that reads, “I love you because . . .” and then I write one thing for each day of the month on a heart cutout. You wouldn’t believe how much they like coming home from school to see what’s new on their door!
And it’s a great exercise of reflection for me as a mom, to be able to really take stock and look at what they’re doing well, their strengths and talents, their uniqueness, and all the joy they bring to our home. I just love the opportunity to love on them by reminding them to notice the goodness in them. With all the negative messages floating around them, what a gift it is to show them they are already more than enough, and worthy of love.
Best of all, these stay up for the rest of the year. So on that day when they don’t do so well on a test, or someone calls them a name, or they feel discouraged or anxious, they’ll have my words to come back to.
And so will I — when their rooms are messy and I have to repeat myself a million times, it will help me take that extra deep breath and find some perspective so that I end up responding to them thoughtfully without losing my cool.
Are you in yet? This Valentine’s Day, let’s do something that sweetens the soul. Let’s take the time to really see our kids for the amazing human beings that they are, and make it a point to tell them.
Want to try something a little different?
You can also make 28 hear cutouts (one for each day of the month) and write prompts in each one. Put them in a cute box or heart-themed container – or whatever you have available—at the dinner table. Pick one out randomly when you sit down for dinner and just share your answers as a family.
Here are some ideas to get you started:
- One thing I admire about you is . . .
- I love the way you . . .
- My favorite thing to do with you is . . .
- One thing I wish for you is . . .
- You are so good at . . .
- I am proud of you for . . .
- You make me laugh when you . . .
- You inspire me to . . .
The idea is to build each other up by noticing what each person does well and what their strengths, gifts, and abilities are. It is a great way to support and connect with each other, and it also teaches kids to look at the bright side and be kind to themselves. The less critical and harsh they are with themselves, the less critical and harsh they’ll be with others. Ultimately, it is a lesson in kindness, compassion, and love.
Do you have other Valentine’s Day traditions you enjoy with your kids? Share yours in the comments.
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